How could you?

Those 3 words "how could you?" were followed up with "even think about traveling to America with all that is going on out there at the moment?"

Those words were uttered to me yesterday evening from a very angry woman. 

What was she angry about? Aside from "everything" the reason she was so irate at me is because she learned I want to visit the USA and am doing all I'm doing to try and raise the funds to get there. I figured she was going to have a go at me because I am asking for help to achieve the dream when there are so many people out there who have illnesses and are far more deserving (I'll come back to that statement in tomorrows entry) but no, she was angry because she believes the one place I should not visit is America. She proceeded to call me a despicable human, a racist and many other derogatory terms because I want to travel stateside - I didn't even bother trying to explain that I wanted to go long before they had a change in administration, that I don't know how long I have left on this planet so to choose not to visit somewhere I yearn to be because they've had a change would be untrue to myself. 

My parents - amazing people, both of them - taught me there are 2 things you never discuss with other people: religion and politics. My Dad was usually shit when it came to giving out advice but on those he could not have been more right. It's a rule I've stuck to my whole life. I have very religious friends, I have not so religious friends and I have friends who are 100% athiest. What they choose to believe is their choice; I have no right to tell them what they should/shouldn't believe just as they have no right to tell me what I should. As for politics I really don't know enough to pass judgement on who is right for a country and who is wrong. I often find when it comes to voting (I always vote) that I put my cross next to the one who makes me believe more that they will do the best for everyone living here, not just the few. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must have been for people in the states to have voted in their last election, but vote they did. Firstly they voted for who they wanted to run then they voted for whichever of those 2 they wanted (I personally feel it was the lesser of 2 evils). They live in a democratic country and had a democratic vote based on their system - one they've used for many years. No matter who wins you will always have people who aren't happy about it, will say it's a fix, blah blah blah. Now, my thoughts on their president are nothing to do with anyone else but me - I did dare to say the other day "Loathe him of love him he is doing exactly what he said he would which is something I've never known a politician do before". I never said this to support him nor did I say it denounce him; it was merely an observation but it would appear the world is too delicate for such things right now. As I've said what I do (or) don't think of him is nobodies business but my own. 

Apparently because he is now not letting people from specific countries in - a policy I will agree is utterly preposterous (not to mention extremely dangerous) when most terrorists these days are home-grown to begin with. However, I'm sorry but I don't come from one of those countries and as such will be allowed to enter. I feel for people who are not allowed - my cousin is married to a muslim immigrant who could not have been more proud at being made an American Citizen. To know he could have been refused entry under the new system had he not got his citizenship at the end of last year is shocking (he's genuinely one of the kindest people I have ever met) and while I feel for anyone who is being refused entry, for once in my life I am going to play the selfish card. If that makes me a bad person then so-be-it. I'm sorry for anyone who's not allowed entry, angry that those being refused may be trying to flee a war-torn area that the west has contributed towards (let's face it if we'd not spent so much time destroying middle eastern countries then the people wouldn't need to be fleeing). I'm angry one section of people are being discriminated against (it's reminiscent of Hitler and how he was with the Jewish community) people who aside from some radicals are peace loving; no different than you or I, but there are radicals within all faiths, all walks of life. America is meant to be the "land of the free" yet how can it be when they choose not to allow people to live freely? I do think he is making a big mistake with this decision but as with my homeland and our vote to leave Europe I think many people had become disillusioned with those in charge of their countries so they chose to vote in such a way they thought was right - whether it was or not remains to be seen. My argument with people who go on about immigrants coming here stealing our jobs, taking our homes etc is always the same. They're not stealing anything; they're taking the lowest of the low paid jobs that people born here are too lazy to take because we have a benefit system that rewards laziness. Some people over here believe it is their right not to have to work, therefore having everything they want handed to them on a plate. I've worked 6/7 day weeks for 31 years of my life - in the past 10 years I've had no more than 1 weeks holiday a year. I've never been out of work. I've always paid my taxes, never fleeced anyone for a penny. What I have I've worked for and earned through that hard work, yet what has that got me? A room I can barely afford in my Mum's house that she can barely afford to keep running - she worked every day of her life too until our NHS told her she was "natural wastage" and got rid of her without so much as a thank you. She lives on the state pension (which is peanuts). Because her and my Dad got off their arses and worked hard to buy their own home she now lives in a house falling down around her because neither of us has the money to do repairs. When my Dad was dying (he lived just 14 months) they didn't get a penny of help from our government (not a single penny) yet at the time my friend was having her 3rd child, she'd never done a days work in her life and because she had to move into a 4 bedroom house our government threw £1500 at her to decorate. Believe me when I tell you I would rather have a thousand immigrants than the same amount of lazy Brits who feel they shouldn't have to work. 

I'm digressing, but think it's important to remember that not everything is black and white. I don't agree with a lot of what is going on in America (just as I don't agree with a lot of what is going on in many countries around the world) but protests and petitions won't change anything and it will not stop me from visiting the places I dream of visiting. I'm sorry if you think it wrong of me to still want to go. I'm sorry if you are one of the people who have been banned from entering the US - I can't even begin to imagine how you feel but a decision has been made and whether I visit or not won't make an ounce of difference to that decision. What hope is there for the world if we all give up on our dreams?